Getting Pumped

The deal in our house is that when it comes to your birthday, you can either have a friend party or an expensive gift.  The friend party is usually the better deal for the kid, since they get a party and a slew of gifts from friends, but since they are getting older and their gifts of choice are getting more expensive (since when does a nine year old need a laptop???), it’s a fair trade.

This year Garrett chose the friend party and he opted for the inflated indoor playground at Pump It Up.  The beauty of Pump It Up is that, aside from bringing a cake and party favors, they take care of almost everything else.  Including wearing out 18 eight year olds (and a handful thirty-something year olds, too).  And Garrett thoroughly enjoyed getting the royal birthday party treatment.  

I'm not sure who had more fun...the boys or the dads.

We all agreed that Garrett would would be perfectly happy to have a throne like this at home.

You would think that with the almost-dozen Lego sets he got from friends he would have plenty to keep him busy this summer.  Unfortunately, summer started the minute we got home and he’s already built most of them. He woke up this morning for school with a Lego hangover and he’s back at work the minute he set foot in the door after school.

Here's his latest collection, built in less than 24 hours...

Just as well.  He starts a Lego engineering camp next week and something tells me that he will be taking his Lego building to a whole new level.  I can't wait to see what he comes up with (and, yes, I will post pictures).

In the mean time, it’s t minus 3 days until summer and counting...

Why knowing Penny Wilcox has made me a better person (In loving memory)

Most of us go through life looking for purpose; hoping that somehow, at the end of the day, we’ve made a difference in some way.  That the people we love know we love them, that the people we don’t know can somehow benefit from us, and that the world is somehow a better place because we were there.

I don’t know if that was Penny’s vision, but it certainly was her achievement.  I, for one, have been changed for the better.

Grandma Penny with four of her biggest fans (the feeling was mutual).

 Penny had an unconditional and fierce love for her family.  They were all perfect in her eyes, deserving of unwavering love and affection...and whatever their hearts desired.  I used to be concerned about her “spoiling” her grandkids and that they weren’t appreciating her gifts.  What I understand now is that her gifts were much bigger than the abundance of toys in the unwrapped bags- her gifts made people feel special.  That is what my kids will remember about Grandma.

Penny had one of the most generous and empathetic hearts I’ve ever seen.  If the kids came to her crying, more often than not they would both end up in tears.  If someone crossed you, Penny would have your back, no matter what.  You knew she was always on your side.

And it wasn’t just family- it was not unusual that she would befriend complete strangers and, if they had a need, she would help them in any way she could.  Or they would just talk for hours- just ask Renee about her namesake.  Penny wore her heart on her sleeve and would give the shirt off her back if the situation called for it.  

Penny has inspired me to be more adventurous with my family for the sake of creating memories. There was more than one occasion when I would begrudgingly agree to an excursion with the kids at Penny’s request because of the burden it placed on me as the parent.  Let’s face it, going anywhere with four young kids is difficult, and more often than not, stressful.  But Penny had the wisdom to know that the temporary stress on me would far outweigh the happy, lifelong memories being created for the kids.  Now those moments are cherished memories that will live long after she’s gone.

And that is why I will be a better mother, wife, parent and person having known Penny.  I learned that sometimes life is less about doing and more about being, and THAT is the kind of legacy I hope I will leave too some day.

With gratitude and in loving memory,
Aimee

"Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans..."

Aint that the truth.  Life has been busy and happening all over the place over the last couple months.  Here is my best catch-up-nutshell version of our crazy life...

We survived yet another tax season.  Are they getting harder or are we just getting older?  Or both?  The good news is that I'm looking forward to that post-labor amnesia that should be kicking in any day now where looking back "it wasn't that bad...".  The GREAT news is that Brian really likes his job.  And, really, life is too short not to. 

Blake earned his yellow belt in karate, way to go, Blake!

Of course now it's getting harder and he hasn't totally committed to practicing, but I'm hoping the hitting and kicking techniques will change his mind (so long as he doesn't practice those on his siblings).  When he's not going kung foo, Blake is putting his new pocket knife to use following his  recent Cub Scouts refresher on whittling.  He's so proud, what do you think of his fish?

Note: whittling a small bar of soap takes a lot of- okay, too much- focus and patience for a group of excited third grade boys.

We also learned how to ski Southern California style- on grass, of course! 

It actually turned out to be a really good team building exercise with Scouts that ended up being very akin to rowing.  And I'm happy to report that Blake seems to finally be doing much better in school...now that it's May.  No doubt he's looking forward to summer and more fort building (he actually builds rooms in his forts!).

Garrett has continued to amaze us with his unique and original Lego creations.

This is the "graveyard" he built complete with headstones, a "creepy" tree, spider web and spider.

Watching Garrett construct this sphinx was pretty amazing- he new exactly what piece needed and where to put it.  He built his in under 5 minutes.

It seems like daily that he comes up with something new.  I can't wait to see what he comes up with at Lego camp this summer...should be interesting.  While I'm still trying to wrap my brain around him turning eight, Garrett has managed to finagle three family birthday celebrations and a friend party next month.  This kid is going to be a millionaire someday...  These days he's added another Character Counts wristband to his collection after being rewarded at school for turning in money he found on the playground.

Does this nullify the Character Violation he got earlier that week? 

Chase is still a bigger version of his sweet and loving self.  He's become quite the talker these days and goes from 0 to frustrated in about .01 seconds...patience is not this child's virtue.  But, fortunately, being too darn cute is.  And so are compassion, affection and cuddling.  Yeah, he's pretty irresistible.  He's also become quite the little dancer/singer.  Here are his moves to Michael Jackson's "Beat It".

Otherwise, his biggest challenge right now is trying to be "one of the 'big' boys" when his body is only three (which doesn't help his frustration).

Ella got her first hair cut!  Yes, while Chase has had more than we can count, we've been holding out on getting Ella's haircut so she could have long hair.  And now that she does, she wants it cut "like a boy".  The compromise was just a trim, which turned out much better than I was anticipating considering that she was growling at the stylist the entire time. 

She even got a style (something I'm strictly prohibited from going).  In the end she walked away with a "Jedi" braid- the one and only time, I'm sure.

She has also become quite enthused with drawing.  Here is the first official drawing that is recognizable to others- can you guess what it is?

It's kind of hard to see, but according to Ella it's a spider.

Now if I could just harness that creativity exclusively to paper... 

And, of course, she is still dressing up (and undressing) Ella-style constantly.  

Here's one of the coolest things about preschool- the twins got to celebrate their "special day" at school, where they celebrate non-school birthdays.  They were super proud to have Aunt Renee come to read a few of their favorite books.

Aimee.  My updates are a little less exciting...I'm still running about 20 miles a week, which is good considering I discovered cake pops (and really wish I hadn't)! 

Other than keeping up with family, I've been working a little less and am promising myself I will make time to write more.  Summer is just around the corner and I'm ready- or at least armed- with workbooks, summer camps and sunscreen.

Easter was low-key this year.  Mostly because we had been too busy to plan much more than an egg hunt and a totally nontraditional (but easy) lasagna dinner.  I really need to talk to the Easter bunny about rescheduling Easter for AFTER tax season.  Just as well- we went light on the egg hunt too, since I had already eaten most of the candy. 

Mother's Day was also low-key (the theme around here when things get crazy).  And, you really can't go wrong with a massage to celebrate.

 

This was the Mother's Day Tea at the twin's preschool where the kids in the class created the menu for the moms.  This year it was chicken noodle soup, lemonade and chocolate ice cream.  Yum? What I love about that is that they are all comfort foods, which tells me the kids love the comfort of mom!

 

Then there was the hailstorm of '12.  We had a few days of cold rain and hail- so much so that it accumulated just enough to make ONE snow/iceball.  By the next weekend it was 80 degrees, so that was our winter and then we were into spring.  It was fun while it lasted.

One of the coolest things about San Diego is "Free Tuesdays" at Balboa Park.  On this day we went with Nana to the Natural History Museum to see the dinosaurs (of course) and then went to the Reuben H. Fleet Science Center where the kids got to explore for hours.  A portion of the upstairs was dedicated to stick building- whatever you can imagine and build!  We all had fun building masterpieces (and learning about physics...).

Over Spring Break the kids and I got to visit with John, Jen, Patrick and Jessica, who we haven't seen in almost eight years!  What a great time (minus the stomach bug that knocked a few of us down), and how fun to be grown ups and reminisce about childhood!  It was especially fun getting to know Patrick and Jessica a little better- what sweet kids (which is strange to call them, since they are both taller than me and twice as big since the last time I saw them).

Speaking of family, we recently had the privilege of hosting a family of House Wrens in the birdhouse the boys made with Grandpa a few years back.  Blake was the first to notice it, but I was doubtful because I thought the hole was too small.  Turns out, it was just the right size for a small bird and perfect shelter for a nest!  

In fact, we've had quite a variety of birds hanging out at our house lately- a Scrub Jay that waits on our patio for bread crumbs, a Coopers Hawk and a Redtail Hawk that consider our yard prime hunting grounds, hummingbirds that keep checking back to see if we've refilled our feeders, and a woodpecker that can be heard and seen poking at the neighbors' trees.  Blake even did his school presentation on birds- and a special thanks to Aunt Nee Nee for helping him!

And in the midst of it all, we moved Penny/Grandma & David/Grandpa in early March to be closer to us.  The move was all that Penny had talked about wanting for years, and we were able to spend a little more time with her in the last month.  Sadly she passed away just a few weeks after moving here (more on that in another post) and we think about and miss her often.

The good news is that this summer is promising to be unforgettable!  The boys are really looking forward to fishing and bird watching with Grandpa, going to Lego, Lasertag and rock climbing camps, and hopefully spending most other days in their bathing suits (literally, not metaphorically, although nothing would surprise me in this house).  Chase & Ella will hopefully be taking swim lessons and tumbling.  And I'm just hoping to keep my sanity :)

Happy Birthday, Garrett!

After reviewing my posts of when Garrett turned five, six and seven, here's what I've concluded about him turning eight:

1.  He loves toys, then family, then animals.  Although junk food may be tied with toys, and that's only when he's not fighting with siblings.  Or when he's not sporting a teenage attitude- then NOTHING makes him happy!  (Which, by the way, is also the reason I don't have very many decent pictures of him lately).

2.  His sense of humor is unique, evolving, and still inappropriate.  Probably more so as he is exposed to more of this crazy world.  Like, who in their right minds ever thought a show called the "Annoying Orange" would be a good idea?  Okay, it's my fault for letting him watch it, but "annoying" does not even begin to describe it.  And he LOVES it!

3.  He is still obsessed with Legos, but it's become a great outlet for his ideas and creativity.  And he's recently taken to sketching. 

4.  He loves to read.  Unless it's homework, then he'll complain about it.  But once it's bedtime, he'll stay up waaaay past his bedtime reading by the crack of light from the bathroom down the hall.  Diary of a Wimpy Kid is his current favorite- and he's picked up quite a bit of pre-teen wisdom (if you can call it that) and humor, and he can't get enough of it.

5.  He's getting even more clever when it comes to getting his way.  I suppose I could view it as his entrepreneurial spirit, but he is very quick to negotiate to get what he wants.  And he never forgets what you agree upon.  Do you think he's a talented artist?  Great!  He wants to sell you a drawing... that's what I mean by clever.

6.  Sometimes he just plain blows me away.  Like when he emptied his change jar- and TWO weeks of allowance money- for the school fund raiser for kids with cancer.  Or, when he created a new system for consequences that he thought would be more effective than our current one.  Or, when he brought home this letter he wrote at school. 

So glad to have this in writing, because sometimes I need written proof!

This is the same kid who has been sent to the principle's office the same week he was "caught" shining and earned a Character Counts Award.  Life with Garrett can be a little unpredictable, but one thing's for sure- it's never boring!

We love you, Garrett!  And we look forward to the adventures to come...

My Ninjas

As we see basketball season coming to an end for Garrett, we welcome something different for Blake...karate!  So far he's loving it.  It's a less formal and more fun format than your traditional karate studio, but he's already earned his first white tape.  That means he's got the four-corner block, double punch and slide step down.  Here he is working on his side kick.

It's been a great place for Blake to focus his attention and energy, especially since he's such an intense kid.  And hopefully it's alleviating some of the stress being created by the pressures of third grade.  Yes, third grade- can you believe it?  That's another story for another time, but speaking of class, check out this stop motion movie Blake made (with Brian's help) for a class presentation.  Technology is so amazing...it scares me.

As a spectator of the sport karate and with the constant presence of Ninjago in our house (Legos+ninjas=Ninjago), Ella donned one of her more creative get ups as a "bad ninja".  What brought my attention to this was Garrett's question, "Uh...mom, why is Ella wearing pants on her head?".  Well, to create the ninja mystique a la mask, of course!  Chase decided to be "bad ninja's kitty" and there you have it.

Never a dull moment in this house.  And, as if that isn't enough fun, let's give a warm welcome for spring tax season!  And February?  What happened to January????

And the Journey Continues...

It was fifteen years, four months and seven days earlier that this same scenario played out.  And I fell for it twice. 

It was a beautiful San Diego evening and Brian and I were on a wild goose chase to run a random errand all the way across town.  The first time, I was a little surprised, but this time I was shocked!  As we made our way around the back side of the Hotel Del Coronado in search of what I thought was the gift shop, I was slightly thrown off guard when Brian nudged me onto the sand.  And then really thrown off guard when he confessed there was no pendant that were supposedly in search of. 

But...why go through all the trouble of getting me here?  He could have just said "let's have a date" and I would have happily obliged. 

Because it wasn't just any date.  In fact, we found the exact spot where he proposed fifteen years earlier and made ourselves comfortable on the rocks to watch the sunset.  And still, I thought it was just special being together in this place, and that it was an intentional moment created to reflect on life and prepare ourselves for what's to come.  I was right, but I didn't expect him to take it one step further.

As we sat on the rocks marveling at the picturesque sunset, Brian summarized his first proposal about setting out on life's journey together.  He talked about the journey so far- the adventures of unexpected storms, the beautiful places and the four passengers we've added along the way.  And the journey that's yet to come.

He presented me with my original wedding ring (which I had not been wearing it since it was in need of repair), which he not only had fixed, but embellished with four additional diamonds- one for each of our passengers (children).  And as we watched the sun set together 15 years later, we agreed to continue our journey together and as a family, whatever adventures life brings.

Feeling content with life is a beautiful thing.  Thanks to my amazing and incredibly thoughtful husband for making me the world's luckiest wife. 

Bon Voyage!

Scooting, Skating, Shooting and Scheming...

And lots and lots of sparkles!  That pretty much sums up Christmas 2011.  The twins finally got the scooters from their third birthdays (just in time, too, since they are just pounds away from the weight limit- oops).  Garrett got a skateboard, Blake a pogo stick.  Garrett has yet to conquer the skateboard but thinks he looks pretty cool.  Blake picked up the pogo stick and didn't put it down until he'd mastered it.  For all the kids (and grownups) we bought a basketball hoop for the driveway.  Have you noticed the theme yet....?  We are up to our eyeballs in toys, so we decided that it was a much better investment for all our sake to gift things that were for outside use and that promoted anything but sitting in front of the computer/iPod.  And just in time for winter break!  The only down side is that I lost my prime parking spot (either that or the minivan serves as a sideboard), but it's nice to see the neighborhood boys congregating in front shooting hoops.

I think someone just got caught eating the cookie decorations...

Our Christmas eve tradition of new pj's and a Christmas movie.

 

If the big boys are doing it, he's in!

If Ella had her way, she'd be riding a motorcycle instead of a scooter.

Love Blake's reaction to finding out that they were getting a basketball hoop for the driveway!

     
Christmas was nice but felt a little rushed this year.  In part, because it wasn't as well planned out...and in part, because life is just moving WAY too fast.  The twins kind of "get" the whole Santa thing- not because I was crazy enough to take them to a crowded mall and torture them with pictures- but from the dozen Christmas movies we bought to try bring the excitement home.  And it wouldn't be the same without Christmas cookies, a midnight gift wrapping session and gorging on all the holiday favorite foods.  Everyone seemed pretty content with their gifts, and I was lucky enough to be spoiled by my boys- not one, but TWO (faux) gold rings bought just for me by Blake and Garrett who were too excited to wait until Christmas day to give them to me.  There is no better gift than to see your children filled with excitement about giving (except for being the recipient of their thoughtfulness and generosity).  But they are lucky to have an outstanding role model for a father...in spite of his scheming.  I'll save that for the next post.  Here's a hint: it sparkles!

Nine Years and Counting...

We were blessed a beautiful baby boy.  He was sweet, quiet, content and pretty much perfect.  And he still is...minus the boyhood moments of sassiness and attitude.

And while I've learned a lot in my nine years of parenting, Blake is a constant reminder that I have so much more to learn and that we parents grow with our kids.  There really is no easy part of parenting.  The reward, however, is to see our sweet little babies become their own people.  Here are a few things about Blake you may not know...

He's like his dad- he NEEDS time throughout the day to wonder and think; to process his thoughts, preferably with something in his hands, and just dream.  He doesn't mind being alone and likes to be in his own space.
 

He loves games!  He got an iPod Touch for his 9th birthday and they've been inseparable ever since.  But it's not just silly games- his favorite is Boggle.  And with his iTunes gift card he's been downloading flashcards and checkers!  The games challenge his mind.
 

He loves the drums.  We suspected this when he was younger and have a drum set in the rafters to prove it.  Technology has come a long way, and an electronic set with ear phones is what I recommend for a small house and a loud instrument.  Still...he thinks with his hands.  He's constantly drumming a beat, can easily keep a beat and just loves to bang on things.
 

He loves to read.  He likes mysteries and has been reading the Harry Potter series.  When given the opportunity, it's not unusual for Blake to sit down and read quietly without "having" to.
 

He loves to build.  Anything.  And he wants to understand how things work.  But once he gets an idea in his mind, there's little hope of stopping him until his project comes to fruition.  Even in the middle of homework.  Going back to #1, we realize that it's an important part of this dreaming and thinking.  Apparently, Brian was the same way when he as a kid (and still is).
 

He's a really good teacher.  Because he loves to learn, he's happy and patient enough to share what he's learned with the twins.  He's an awesome big brother (when he's not teaching them potty words...)
 

He is very humble.  If you know him, you probably already know this, but he's a little shy and mostly humble.  He doesn't want or expect much from people, and he has a very generous heart.  I will never forget the time he gave his entire allowance saved from two weeks ($7) to the church offering.  And while we're still working on trustworthiness, he really tries to be conscientious and responsible. 
 

He will mimic everything we do.  When we are busy working, he builds himself office space and "goes to work".  When we do or go somewhere special, he recreates that at home (everything from bowling, to a haunted house, to the library, to the store).  He's always been an old soul and operates as if he's in a grown up world.  This is the same kid who has always preferred things like office supplies over toys.  And he keeps me checking my words, tone, stress and attitude, since he often reflects exactly what he's seeing around him.

Raising Blake has been and continues to be an amazing experience.  When I realize that he's halfway through his childhood, I stop wishing the hard parenting moments away and just want reach out and give him giant bear hugs...stinky boy feet and all.

Happy 9th Birthday to my very special Blakers.  We are SO proud of you!

'Tis the (Basketball) Season

Right on the heels of soccer season is basketball season.  This year, Garrett wanted to give basketball a try.  We thought it would be a great sport to keep him active and help him with balance and coordination, and he already has height on his side.  What I didn't realize is that he's also very competitive and driven...so it's a good thing that he's on an awesome team (the first game was something like 38-0, but they don't technically keep score).  And, yes, Garrett was able to score two of those points with this basket (in the first couple seconds of the clip, he's #10).



So far, he's loving basketball (but it's always more fun when you win, isn't it?).  The beauty of the sport is how fast it moves, and with only 6 players, everyone gets hands on the ball.  And I'm loving that his coach is holding Garrett to the standard of the team (by that I mean that EVERYone runs lines).  And the schedule is manageable for me with only one practice and one game a week.  We'll see what the rest of the season brings, but so far so good!

Merry Basketball!

Running Strong

Happy Running Anniversary to my husband, Brian.  It was a year ago this race (the Silver Strand Half Marathon) that we set off down a path of running races together (or, more accurately, running at the same time- he still won't run with me).  It's been a year of pushing ourselves, building mental (and physical) toughness and focusing on being being healthy. 

Here is what I've learned about running half marathons:

1.  It's exhilarating to see the start line....a relief to see the finish line...but the real challenge is what it takes to get from one to the other.
2.  It's all about the training...unless you're under 30, which is probably why the majority of people running these races are over 30- it's the challenge the beckons them.
3.  The proper fuel and hydration is an equation unique to you and you have to listen to your body to figure it out (ideally before the race).  For instance, I learned the hard way this time around NOT to eat orange slices immediately upon running 13.1 miles (they didn't sit well in my stomach...and didn't stay there).
4.  Stretch, strengthen, and stretch some more.  It will keep you strong, balanced and less prone to injury.
5.  Plan to do nothing after the race and give yourself a chance to recover...which is pretty much impossible with four kids.
6.  Do what you enjoy.

So, here are our specific accomplishments this year:
Aimee: 4 Half marathons4, including this one (PR: 1:58); 2 10k's (PR: 52:12); 1 5k (PR: 25:35)
Brian ran 3 half marathons (including this one), 2 10k's, 2 full sprint triathlons and swam 1 relay triathlon. 

This year we plan to focus on shorter (and fewer) races, but still intend to keep running and training.  But, most importantly, staying healthy for the sake of each other and our family.  Happy Anniversary, Bri!